14. 2024 年 12 月 – 迦勒社交媒体的使用

l 人物 – 迦勒，17 岁。

l 事件 – 从高中二年级开始，我们就没有必要对迦勒的电脑设置智能手机使用限制。我们认为他已经足够成熟，可以自我调节。我偶尔会和他一起了解他的情况。迦勒不再有任何限制，例如周末 2 小时的屏幕时间。有趣的是，他自己设定了自己的界限，而我们却没有对他施加任何强制。例如，对于这部手机上的各种社交媒体应用程式，他设置了15分钟的限制。然后他让诺亚输入密码，这样如果时间限制到了，只有诺亚可以解锁。有时迦勒 不得不通过其中一个社交媒体应用程式联系朋友，我看到他请求诺亚解锁，这样他就可以在那个特定的应用程式上有更多的时间。此外，他生命中的某些特殊时期会向我寻求帮助。当迦勒还是高中新生时，我们开始给他一部智能手机，并安装了签到查出查入系统。当他去上学时，他会签到查出手机，然后当他回到家时，他就签到查入手机。首先，我们想确保智能手机不会影响他的睡眠。这个签到系统大约在他大一的中段就取消使用了。然而，迦勒记得这个系统。所以，即使他是大二或大三学生，当他有重要的考试、期末考试、需要集中注意力的情况时，他也会让我拿走他的电话。迦勒会自愿与我这里签到他的手机，这样他就不会分心。最近，迦勒问我是否有办法在他在家时完全遮罩所有类型的社交媒体网站。我们讨论了这个问题，他意识到他仍然需要使用YouTube和其他一些网站。但是，我们确实完全遮罩了 Instagram。他说他想这样做，因为他不想浪费哪怕一秒钟来流览 Instagram。

14.   12/2024 – Caleb social media usage

a.    Who – Caleb Wang, 17 years old.

b.    What – Since sophomore in High School, we have not had the need to put restrictions on Caleb’s computer for smart phone usage. We felt that he was mature enough to self-regulate. I will occasionally check in with him on how he was doing. Caleb no longer has any restriction like 2 hour a weekend for screen time. Interestingly enough, on his own, he has set his own limits without us enforcing anything on him. For example, for the various social media apps on this phone, he set a limit of 15 minutes. He then asked Noah to enter a passcode so that only Noah can unlock if the time limit is up. There are times when Caleb had to reach a friend through one of the social media apps and I see him asking for Noah to unlock so he can have a bit more time on that specific app. In addition, there are special periods of his life when he will ask me for help. When Caleb was a freshman in High School, we started giving him a smart phone to use via a check in check out system. When he goes to school, he checks out the phone, then when he returns home, he checks the phone back in. Primarily, we wanted to make sure the smart phone does not impact his sleep. This system went away probably half way through his freshman year. However, Caleb remembers this system. So, even when he was a sophomore, or junior, when he has important exams, finals, situations where he needs to focus, he would ask me to take his phone number. Caleb will voluntarily check in his phone with me so that he is not distracted. Most recently, Caleb asked me if there is a way to just completely block all types of social media sites when he is at home. We talked through it and he realizes he still needs to use YouTube and few others. However, we did block Instagram completely. He said he wanted to this because he does not want to waste even one second scrolling through Instagram.